I'm so far behind on this thread - demi, I'm so sorry to hear about the bucking incident, that is not fun at all. I'm glad you weren't badly hurt. Good luck with whatever direction you decide to go in from here.
Rosie I love seeing Bliss!!! He is so spectacular, and I'm so glad you guys are back to work, I looks forward to hearing/seeing more!
Khall have the BEST time, bring back photos and stories galore - I can't wait to hear about it!!
Chisamba, interesting thoughts on Kimba's contact, I'm going to try the shallow serpentine idea to even out contact next ride, Callie also tends to go empty in the left. I'm looking forward to hearing about your clinic!
I know I'm forgetting other posts I wanted to respond to also, my short term memory is terrible...
Had what I hope is a big step forward in our jump lesson on Tuesday, where, based on my recent clinic experience, I acknowledged that I routinely completely abdicate responsibility for tempo in all three gaits. So I spent the warmup counting, planning out the tempo within the gait, and in the next gait before a transition as well. I had NO idea how wildly Callie's tempo changes especially in the walk - long rein walk and working walk were SO off! And it was hard work in my core to create that tempo in the walk, in some ways harder than in trot and canter. So spent time in walk circles, big big turns on haunches, and alternating long rein/short rein concentrating every step. I have some very ADD tendencies so that level of concentration was very challenging.
When we went to the track to warm up, I started with a relatively conservative tempo at canter, and my trainer had me increase the tempo with each round, and it was awesome to feel how steadying Callie (and I!!) found it to have my body and sometimes voice when she got tense or scared saying the same steady predictable rhythm. Any surprises or chaos happening around us didn't matter because we both already knew what the next four strides were going to be. It was also fun to realize as we picked up the tempo that it didn't matter how fast she was going, as long as it was my tempo I had no anxiety at all! It was also a big deal to realize that I am capable of convincing Callie to listen and respond to that kind of input.
So, my groundbreaking conclusion is that rhythm creates relaxation.
Shocking and new, I know, and it's never been said by anyone before but someone's got to break new ground.
(/sarcasm, FYI)
As we walked back to the barn Callie was still worried and wanting to spook at a trailer in the driveway, and at the woods, so I went back to counting and widened my hands to help her stay in the middle of me, and it was really something to feel her relief. I felt like I was creating a place of order within chaos for her - there might be a deer over there, the dogs might bark, a car might come around the corner, something might be in the trailer but I KNOW we're walking 1,2,3, 4, so the "mights" are less important. I stopped counting at one point to say "good girl" and she tensed up immediately - whoops! Funny reminder to let go of my own preconceptions and pay attention to what another being actually needs and wants - for Callie, creating order is much more rewarding and meaningful than praise. It might feel good to me to give praise, but it's not about me.