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My dh's niece (his brother's daughter) gave birth 4 mos ago to a wonderful baby boy, her first child, her parents first grandchild. Yesterday, he stopped breathing while at the baby sitter. It took a long time to get his heart beating reliably again, and he is now on a vent at Children's Primary. I have not spoken to anyone since last night, so I do not know his status right now. Regardless, could y'all offer up your jingles and/or prayers for baby Jax, his parents and his grandparents?

How scary. Jingles and prayers for Jax and his family.

Sending jingles for Jax for speedy and uneventful recovery.

Jingles and prayers for baby Jax and family.

Consider it done.

JINGLES JINGLES JINGLES JINGLES. I have a grandson a little older. I cannot imagine their anxiety at the moment. JINGLES JINGLES JINGLES JINGLES

Jingling!

Sensing all kinds of positive energy to little Jax.

Loud Jingles and prayers for Baby Jax, and the whole family. Jingle, Jingle, Jingling loud.

JIngles!

That's terrifying!! Jingling madly for Jax!!!

Jingles for the little guy.

Millions of all of the above sent for the wee one and his poor worried sick family.

Sue B wrote: could y'all offer up your jingles and/or prayers for baby Jax, his parents and his grandparents?

Big prayers for little Jax. Big prayers....

Little Jax passed away last night. Nothing to say...

Oh no. I just saw this thread.
I'm so sorry.

My condolences to the family.
I cannot even imagine.

{{{{HUGS}}}}

Susan

So very sorry for the awful news. My deepest condolences to you and the family.

I'm so sorry for your loss. There really are no words.

I'm so sorry for your families loss of this precious child.

Major jingles for the wee one, very scary.

Oh God in Heaven, I am so sorry.

Was it SIDS?

There is an organization called First Candle (firstcandle.org) that has some resources and can help them through the grieving process.

My barnowners lost a granddaughter to SIDS.

{{{more HUGS}}}

Susan

Heartbreaking. Beyond heartbreaking. So, so sorry.

I am so sorry. This is what strikes fear in every parent's heart. It is not fair and is not right and I cannot imagine what they are going through. There are no words that can comfort for the loss of a child.

Devastating loss. I'm so sorry.

How utterly tragic. I'm so sorry.

I'm so very sorry.

Deepest condolences for your family, so very, very sorry.
Peace baby Jax,

Thank you for all the kind words. It just doesn't seem real, you know? Four month old babies aren't supposed to just die like that. And of course there's all the guilt that mom and grandma feel because he was at the sitter's and not with one of them. Not to mention how that poor sitter feels, having watched the whole thing unfold. Too many what if's, too much pain.

At any rate, funeral plans have not yet been made, but I have a dumb question. Most likely, I will have to stay home and run the business so I can't play this by ear...would it be wrong to send the cute stuff bear I bought him for Christmas along with dh when he goes to the funeral?

Boy, it's hard to know, but I think I would send it along. Again, I'm really so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts.

I am just so sorry for this inexplicable loss. ...

Please don't send the bear. I don't know what these parents are like, but as a parent of a baby who stopped breathing many times, and having gone through the terror and grief and hopelessness of that experience and then palliative care and then coming out the other side, I feel in my heart that would be crushing in this situation. Everybody grieves differently, but I would avoid doing that. If you have photos and memories, maybe a photo album honoring him later, a donation to SIDS research in his name, all those things, but not at the funeral, I would think.

Prayers for you and your family.

Thanks for your input, ThursdayNext. I'm sorry you went through this.

If they want a photo album get me their photos and I'll be happy to design it for them, and if they want to purchase through me I'll sell it at cost.

So very sorry for your family, Sue.

KathyK wrote:Thanks for your input, ThursdayNext. I'm sorry you went through this.

Thank you. By come out the other side, I meant our baby survived after all that. I hope that's clear. She is fine now. It was painful in the extreme for close friends who lost a newborn to return to their nursery and empty crib and baby things, and after our own experience I understood that on a very visceral level. Jax's parents will have blankets that still smell like him, toys that have been drooled on. And they will eventually have to decide what to do with those things. I just wouldn't risk adding to their pain by giving them a bear meant for a baby who just died and will never use it.

I saw this yesterday but couldn't log in until today. It's been weighing on my mind. I'm so terribly sorrow-filled for you all.

Many condolences to you and your loved ones, may your family find peace and strength in each other during these days.

I'm so deeply sorry. There are no words. Hugs, tears, and prayers for all involved. :'(

Like boots, I saw this yesterday but could not comment. I have two little girls myself and i remember the absolute terror of thinking of SIDS and how there was no way for me to protect them because we didn't know what it was we were protecting against in the first place. It's just one of THOSE things.

I'm so very, very sorry for Jax and all who loved him. Life is incredibly unfair at times.

I'm so very sorry. Hugs to all in your family.

I'm sorry for their loss.

I'm so terribly sorry ... it's beyond imagination. You and your family will be in my thoughts.